Lesson: Air grievances before they fester, suggests Kimberly Friedmutter, a life-management coach in Malibu, CA—and be specific. ' explain, 'When you're late for dinner with our friends, I feel embarrassed.'" If you aren't getting across, seek counseling. Technology takes precedence over their relationships. Ever see some guyyapping on his cell, ignoring his wife?
They’d met young, in their early 20s, and had decided, two months before James and I met, to divorce. James had been the one to request the divorce; his wife had been devastated by his decision. There’s not a week that goes by that I don’t think either A) I’m thrilled he’s got that experience under his belt, or B) Why god, did I have to fall in love with a guy with an ex-wife? But beyond that, it’s just a device with which to torture yourself. If he dumped her, you think, “What’s to stop him from dumping me? You’re destined to wonder – however briefly – how much of him is still in love with her. And if you’re the one who winds up with him, it will fall upon you to help him cope. A man with a now-defunct marriage under his belt has learned a few things about himself, about what he has to work on, about what he can and cannot handle.
They have taken out my garbage, carried my luggage, taken my car for an oil change, cooked me dinner, talked about my day at work and brought me breakfast in bed.
I have found that men who have been married are a bit more structured and familiar with the little things.
"Women tell me, 'I've been warning him for years.' The husband responds, 'But I didn't know she was serious!
'" says Michelle Crosby, a family attorney in San Francisco and co-founder of Wevorce, a company dedicated to amicable divorces.